10 Tips for Weaving the Hottest Runway Trends into Your Day-to-Day Looks

The Elspas Teen Daughters Are All Smiles in Our Backyard
Photo by Janis Brett Elspas, MommyBlogExpert

I'm a mom of triplet teens, including two 13 year-old daughters -- one who writes guest posts for this blog as Mini MommyBlogExpert -- who have professed great fashion sense.  As such, I am blessed to have not one but two personal shoppers at my disposal year-round to help me weave the latest fashion trends from the Paris, Milan, New York, and of course, Los Angeles fashion shows.   In fact, I don't even have to ask for their advice, because I also have a pair of fashion critics who will really say what they think.

So, for this post, I asked my girls what fashion advice they would share with all the moms who read MommyBlogExpert.

My Daughters' 10 Tips for Helping Us Moms Dress With Panache

1.  Moms always need to read the latest issues of the fashion magazines us teens subscribe to including Teen Vogue, Vogue, and Elle, among others.  That's because we young women set the trends and even you moms can work some of the newest styles into your wardrobes if you keep up-to-date on the latest fashion news coming out of Europe, New York, and here in California.

2.  Moms can also stay current with what's in fashion by making sure you follow your favorite stores and designers on Twitter and also on Facebook.  As a matter of fact, you moms should spend as much or more time than us girls do checking things out not only on all the top fashion websites, but also watching YouTube clips as much as you possibly can.

2.  Moms should "shop" and borrow from their daughter's closets, as long as daughters are allowed to borrow stylish pieces from their moms in return.  Assuming that moms actually do have some things in their closets that us girls might like to wear, this is a good deal for both young girls and their mothers because it can more than double your wardrobe combinations.  Besides, if you have some good basic classics in your closets such as those little black dresses you can accessorize these the reflect the latest new style trends.

3.  Moms would be wise to go shopping together with us daughters at least a few times each season.  Not only will us girls get our moms to buy us some clothes or accessories that we've been dying to have, while out shopping together moms can get their girls' honest suggestions and opinions on what they think might look good on you.  You never know, your own daughter might be able to put together an ensemble for you that you and Daddy will just love.

4.  Moms -- speaking of shopping -- there's every reason for you to shop with your daughters at places like H&M, Forever 21 and Arden B.  That's because these stores and other similar ones have such a range of styles for both teens and those who just want to look young and on-trend, without looking like they are trying to dress like kids.  What's more, fashions at places like these are very accessible to you as you can usually find affordable, cutting-edge clothes styles and accessories that both you and your daughters will both love.

5.  Moms, another thing, don't overlook taking your daughters to thrift stores and vintage boutiques to shop together.  These kinds of shopping trips are like going on exciting treasure hunts, because you never know what you'll find if you go through enough racks or piles of one of a kind accessories and separates.  Best of all it's a way for us big girls to bond and play dress up and it's so fun to mix and match the pieces that we find to mimic haute couture.

6.  Moms, here's a piece of advice that you are always giving us girls: Constantly edit your closets and weed out what you're not wearing.  This will not only help you reclaim space in your closets for new purchases, it will help you (and us daughters) to find what we're looking for when we go searching for a particular item.  Having things well-organized come particularly in handy when you or we are rushing to go somewhere and we must find that perfect outfit quickly and we don't want any drama.

7.  Moms, while we're on the subject of being able to find things, you should take a tip from your daughters and organize your closets by color.  It really is so much easier to get dressed in a flash if all your jeans are all stacked together and all the separates in each color family are grouped together in your closets.

8.  Moms ought to be creative when putting your outfits together just like we are.  Think outside the box and have a little fun.  For inspiration, a great idea for us daughters and for you is to actually cut out pictures from current issues of various fashion magazines as well as those trendy catalogs we are always getting in the mail because we are on all these subscription mailing lists and hanging those either in or near our closets or full length mirrors.

9. Moms you're cautioned not to wait till the last minute to decide what to wear, either.   Follow the lead of your daughters and try everything on well ahead of when you will need to be ready.  We young girls like to plan our outfits in advance, and you should too.  That way you won't be running around frantically trying to get ready to go to work or to have lunch with your friends.

10. Moms, lastly remember to really listen to your daughters comments about what you're wearing.  We young girls think we are really in touch with what's hot and what's not.  When we tell you we like what you have on there's a good chance you look very trendy.  But, when we say we hate the outfit you've chosen might get you arrested by the fashion police, take us daughters seriously because they're a possibility that there may be some truth to what we are saying.  You do want to look like you just walked off the runway, don't you?

Please Comment:  When was the last time you and your daughter went shopping together?  Please share your funny, crazy, and dramatic stories about the experience below.

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Martha Stewart Thanksgiving Cookbook - Downloadable & FREE

My MommyBlogExpert Pesto Pizza Creation
Photo by Janis Brett Elspas, MommyBlogExpert.com

I'm a very active member of Martha's Circle Dreamers Into Doers social network.  In fact, I've been a huge follower of the Martha Stewart lifestyle since her first book came out about 30 years ago.  I've read all her books -- owning signed copies of many of them -- and have never missed a copy of the magazine Martha Stewart Living since the first issue was published in the mid 1980s. 

Now that I'm raising four kids, TRIPLETS plus one more all born within a year and now teens each creative and who also love cooking like I do.  So, I'm passing on that passion for everything Martha Stewart to them.  In fact now a days when I can't find my latest Martha Stewart magazine, I'll eventually discover that one of my children nabbed it first. 

Now, let me get back on subject.  With Thanksgiving coming up fast, I'd be remiss if I didn't pass on a wonderful Martha Stewart offering that you can download for free right now HERE.  This cookbook is the real deal, not just a bunch of run of the mill recipes, it is a huge PDF file loaded with more than 60 PAGES of great ideas to enhance your family's Thanksgiving celebration.

One of My Girls Prepares Her Famous Costa Rican Meat Patties With Roasted Bananas
Photo by Janis Brett Elspas, MommyBlogExpert.com

I've already downloaded this free cookbook myself and you should too, if especially if you love to cook like I do.  I can't wait to start cooking for Thanksgiving with each of my children (one at a time in the kitchen, of course to maintain my sanity).  But, I've got to go and run out to do some grocery shopping first, so this post is going up right now.

Please comment and tell your stories of cooking in the kitchen with your kids.  The good, the bad, the funny, the serious, other readers of this blog and I are sure to enjoy them.

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Guess What My TEEN Daughter is Getting for Hanukkah? This Zebra Tee & Tutu Legging Set

SweetheartRose Zebra Tee & Tutu Leggings
Photo from Zulily.com

Shusssh.....don't tell Mini MommyBlogExpert, one of my 13 year-old triplets who is also a fashionista who guest blogs on MommyBlogExpert.  I just bought this darling Zebra T-shirt Ensemble by SweetheartRose for her on Zulily.com

According to Zulily's description for this product, "This is for the girl who refuses to sacrifice skirts for skipping, this sweet set has us swooning."  That alone qualifies this as the perfect holiday gift for fashion forward girls like my petite teen.  I can't wait to see how she reacts when she gets this for one of the 8 nights of Hanukkah.

Product Details:
• Includes shirt and tutu leggings
• Shirt: 60% cotton/ 40% polyester
• Leggings: 65% cotton/ 30% polyester/ 5% spandex
• Machine wash; tumble dry
• Imported

As of this blogpost SweetheartRose, a division of Kahn Lucas Lancaster, is offering this Zebra style on Zulily in sizes 6X through Size 12.  They also have a variety of other pretty clothes for girls on sale on Zulily now for those sizes as well as smaller and larger up to size 16.

Zulily's SweetheartRose Sale Ends 11/24, But Might Sell Out Sooner
If you want to buy this for a sweet girl you know, too, you better hurry.  This particular deal won't last forever and is only available on Zulily at this price until November 24 at 7 am PST or until these sell out, whichever comes first.

What is Zulily, Anyway?
Zulily.com is a social buying online marketplace where you can purchase top-quality apparel, gear and other goodies for moms, babies and kids (both boys and girls).  Members can save up to 70% off retail prices—not to mention discover all the exciting new brands showcasing their products here.   Only members can shop their sales, which typically last just a few days, but Zulily membership is FREE and sign up is fast and easy.
 
After you register, be sure to invite your friends to join, too.  For every new friend you invite to Zulily you'll receive a $10 credit to use on the site after your friend's first purchase is complete. There's no limit to how many friends you would like to invite or how many credits you can earn. As Zulily's shopping community grows, so will their ability to offer you even better prices and selection.  Based in Seattle, Washington, this online shopping opportunity was formed by retail and e-commerce veterans.  They're dedicated to bringing members great finds at great prices, as well as giving emerging brands a place to showcase their products.

Psst... Zulily tells me they'll be having lots of great upcoming promos leading into the holidays, too.  So be sure to sign up with Zulily.com so you don't miss out on these and other great perks.


What do you think of this Zebra outfit? Would your teen like this or is there something else on the Zulily site you think she'd love this holiday? Please leave a comment below this post to share it now.


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Zulily's Blog though I did purchase the outfit featured in this post.  I did not receive any products, payment or other compensation associated with this post.  See complete FTC Disclosure information that appears at the bottom of MommyBlogExpert's main page and at the bottom of every individual post on this blog, including this one.

Let Teens be Teenagers – The Ten Commandments for Parents

My Fashionista, Book Worm, Daddy's Girl & iPod Geek Teens
Photo by Janis Brett Elspas, MommyBlogExpert.com

You’ve all heard the expression, “You can’t fight City Hall.”  Based on my own adventures with 4 teens (TRIPLETS, plus one more all born within a year), I've grown to realize that you can’t fight the teenage years either.

Instead, use this tenacious time in any parent’s life to inspire yourself and your adolescent to each master your own individual roles in this saga.  After all, with a wink on the eye, you’ll soon be an empty nester hopefully looking back on all the opportunities you seized on behalf of raising your family well.

Wondering how to survive?  Just try following some of these ideas and you might change your attitude toward your teen.

Daddy & Our Two Daughters, Summer Vacation 2010
Photo by Janis Brett Elspas, MommyBlogExpert.com

Your Teen's 10 Commandments for Mom and Dad

1- Thou shalt NOT argue with your teen.  It’s never really productive is it?  Listen more to your teen’s perspective and talk (or yell) less – you don’t always have to respond, just hearing them out is all that's needed.

2 - Thou shalt NOT write your kid’s papers or do their other schoolwork for them.  Rather, be there on-call as their brainstorming partner and editor.  Do this because we all know the sense of pride that comes with saying “I did it by myself.”

3 - Thou shalt NOT steal your teen’s sleep or when they take flight to retreat when they need to.  It’s a scientific fact that teens need a lot more rest, both in deep sleep mode and in just kicking back and relaxing to de-stress themselves, than many grown adults.  There’s no harm but only good in letting your teenager sleep late whenever it’s feasible and also just indulging him by allowing him to spend time alone holed up in his cave room at home whenever he needs to.

4 - Thou shalt NOT pry and be overly curious about everything your teen talks about with his/her friends or does with them.  They have every right to the same privacy that you do, don't you think?  As long as you’ve done your job and instilled good morals and character traits to live by in your child, you likely will have a limited amount of worrying in this department.

My Two Sons and I, November 2010
Photo by Janis Brett Elspas, MommyBlogExpert.com

5 - Thou shalt NOT let the refrigerator, freezer, and panty ever get bare.  You know how grouchy you get when you are either hungry or thirsty with no relief in sight so it’s easy to see where they’re coming from on this.  Besides, your teen’s body and mind needs to eat and drink more than they ever will right now.  Your job as a parent is to keep the foods and drinks at home well-stocked being sure to have a lot of their favorites on hand, hopefully leaning toward a plentiful supply of healthy choices to them to munch out on.

6 - Thou shalt NOT disappear from being there for your son or daughter.  They may make you feel invisible a lot during this developmental stage in your kid’s life, but that doesn’t mean that your teen won’t benefit merely from your presence – albeit standing in the background off stage – waiting to be called in to help if you’re needed.

7 - Thou shalt NOT be over controlling when it comes to your teen’s acquisition of responsibility.  Sometimes the best way for a kid to learn is simply allow them to stumble and make mistakes without you always being there to catch them.  Handled this way, you increase the chances that your teen will grow into a much stronger and agile adult if they are allowed to workout and build their own muscles for dealing with life's ups and downs.

8 - Thou shalt NOT change the rules mid-game.  Once you've established guidelines for your teen in what you expect from him/her in the way of academic performance, physical fitness, chores, and any other areas (religious, musical/artistic, etc), don't backtrack.  Rules are rules and consistency in enforcing them will pay huge dividends to your sanity now and to your child as he/she moves into young adulthood.

9 - Thou shalt NOT serve as an uninspiring role model.  In other words, don't practice a double-standard between the way you behave and the behavior you expect from your teen.  "Do as I say and not as I do," is not lively to work here.  If you want you want your kid to act a certain way the most non-confrontive approach is to model for your teen by living the same sort of life that you desire your son or daughter to live.

10 - Thou shalt NOT stop learning from your teen.  Yes, that's right.  Your teen has a thing or two to teach you, too, about enjoying life more, living in the moment, and really having fun with just about anything that life throws your way.

So parents, what's stopping you?  Go for it.  Make a difference if both your life and your kid's starting right now.  You'll both be a lot better for it in the present and into the future.

Please Comment
Now it's your turn.  What other commandments could you add to this list for helping us parents to better understand and support our teens? Leave a comment and share.  I look forward to a lively conversation here on this hot topic.
Me with My Two Daughers and Oldest Son
Coors Brewery Tour, Boulder, CO - Summer 2010

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