From a Child Psychiatrist: Holiday Shopping Advice for Parents Buying Holiday Tech Toy Gifts for Kids


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What tech gifts will you be giving your kids this year and why?

This year more than ever, kids will be expecting technology devices as holiday or Christmas gifts.   However, at the same time, parents fear the negative impact of such presents for their children.

Dr. Eitan Schwarz, an Illinois child and adolescent psychiatrist with expertise in technology’s impact on family life, sees benefits if the devices are managed properly to provide educational growth and enhance family relationships.

Dr. S, as he is known to his young patients, says parents can actually turn this holiday season into the start of a promising new chapter in how technology works in their homes by following a few simple guidelines.

Moms and Dads can and should take a more positive and active role in your child's tech toy use by 
  • Thinking of all tech devices as home appliances that will bring value to family life and child development if purchased and utilized smartly.
  • Creating an individualized media plan for each child that includes both limits and the benefits of growth opportunities: better family relationships, socialization, building of values and character traits, and education enrichment.
  • Making entertainment only a minor part of the media plan. Avoid any device that does not serve family- and child-centered aims or provides only entertainment, especially if it will isolate the child with the device.
  • Scheduling time to participate with your child and put limits of time and place for its use (or use negotiation with older children).
  • Applying your new approach gradually to all other tech devices kids use  (TV, iPods, iPads, smart phones, etc.)
Dr. Eitan Schwarz elaborates on how to create a media plan and other steps to effect a positive tech environment for your child in his new book, Kids, Parents & Technology: A Guide for Young Families.

What tech gifts will you be buying for your kids this year? Please share your choices with us as a comment, explaining why you chose what you did for your family.

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Helping Kids Avoid Tech Overuse Abuse

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Children's Overuse and Abuse of Technology

If you are a regular reader of this blog, you may already know that I write frequently about kids and technology. Most recently covering such wide ranging topics as cyber bullying and the latest kid-friendly iPhone & iPad apps.  Most recently, I posted about how to shop smart for kids tech gifts during the holidays.


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A Mom Weighs in on Kids and Technology Use

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Having just read Dr. Eitan Schwarz's book myself Kids, Parents & Technology: A Guide for Young Families (available in soft cover and Kindle) I feel a strong need to comment on how invaluable I think this title is to parents with children growing up in today's digital age.  

Dr. Schwarz gets right to the point in the preface of the book.  He says that we parents need help to manage our kids' usage of technology and we must take a more proactive role in encouraging our children to use it wisely.  

Organized into three sections: Setup & Quick Start Guide, User's Guide, and Food for Thought, this book is one that I wish had been sent home with me from the hospital after the arrivals of my triplets and their big brother, all four who are now teenagers. 


 


A moment later that same orderly kiddie computer lab overseen by their mom, turned into a three-ring Circus 

Child Psychiatrist on Solutions to Tech Overuse, Abuse


Now, without further adieu, here is Dr. Schwarz's own thoughts which I'd like to share with you. I hope you learn as much (or even more) from this than I have.

According to child and adolescent psychiatrist Eitan Schwarz, MD, "The explosive use of home computers and other technology-based consumer media -- some intended for children as young as six months old -- has parents like you concerned about the impact of computers, video games, smart phones and other interactive media on your child's development, family life, and social relationships."

"In actuality," Schwarz explains, "the topic of how to guide children to use technology wisely is a subject of widespread interest with great ramifications for the future. Younger and younger children are now in charge of how they consume media, and they are mostly consuming junk."  

"Surveys," he points out, "show that older kids currently spend over 50 hours a week on electronic devices  and this is increasing.  In fact, family interactions, imaginative play, and grades actually tend to drop when media usage increases. Further, excessive consumption can cause emotional difficulties, as well as result from existing ones.
 
Dr. Schwarz concludes, "Certainly, children need the thoughtful, active and positive guidance of their parents in this amazing Wild-West tech environment. Merely restricting access is not enough and I recommend that parents begin when your child is an infant, gradually decreasing their supervision and participation as the youngster grows older.  For every age group, there is a world of fun Internet sites and electronic games that can contribute to a child's development."

Dr. Schwarz's Six Ways to 
Aid A Child's Growth Through Tech





Eitan Schwarz, MD - Photo from My Digital Family














  • Take Charge - Have confidence and take command. You can manage this important area of your kids lives because you have the home-court advantage.  Many parents too readily take a back seat and let kids take the lead.  Think about it: in what other important areas of life would you normally let that happen?
  • Think of Media as Appliances - Start thinking of media as family appliances that must have positive values. Kids treat media as toys, but they are in fact adult tools with enormous power. Would you let your unsupervised young child use the telephone or oven? Only devices with proven benefits belong in children's hands.
  • Remember, Technology is Healthy - From infancy onwards, teach your youngster to appreciate technology as a healthy and routine part of family life.  Starting young, children will learn that using technology is collaborative and social -- not an isolating solitary activity.
  • Include the Whole Family - Create a new environment around the online family computer and other media to promote mutuality, fun, respect, and development for the entire familial group. Moving the home computer away from the wall and arranging seating all around it will make it a popular center for family life for both kids and parents.
  • Make Media a Positive Learning Tool - Just as you already shop for healthy food, harvest the positive opportunities offered by media.  For every age group there are many wonderful Internet sites, apps, and downloadable software for the home computer that offer a world of learning entertainment experiences.
  • Create Healthy Media Plans - Like you do meal plans, tailor media use into daily menus for each child to provide growth opportunities.  One way to do this is to regularly require enough online time on activities that actually enhance good values and education enrichment.














Kids, Parents & Technology: A Guide for Young Families, published by 
MyDigitalFamily.com, 228 pages, Softcover) is available on Amazon in softcover and Kindle and at booksellers nationwide.

About Eitan Schwarz, MD FAACAP DLFAPA

Recognizing the educational power of audio and visual devices, Dr. Schwarz, who is board-certified in general and child and adolescent psychiatry, conveys his messages through a series of videos: some for parents, some for children on Mydigitalfamily.org  Dr. S, as he is known to his young patients, has been a practicing psychiatrist serving families and their children for nearly 40 years.  He is a graduate of Cornell and Johns Hopkins Medical School.  He has been head of the child and adolescent psychiatric division at Evanston Hospital and is currently on the faculty of Northwestern University in Evanston, Illinois.

What ways have worked for you as a parent to help your child harness everything that the Internet, computers, and digital technology have to offer? 

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2 Games That Bring Family Together for the Holidays: Do Tell & Count Your Blessings



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With all the electronic and Internet-based entertainment children of all ages are now playing, it's easy as a parent to forget that there are still some really good games out there that don't involve some sort of technology.



Moms and dads, do not despair.  There is some really good news on the family gaming front, and it is decidedly very untech.    

Two recently invented G-rated jewels in the game world, Do Tell® and Chicken Soup for the Soul ™ - Count Your Blessings ™, are now bringing parents and kids back together for some quality time and fun.  

My family and I tried both of these games over the Thanksgiving holiday.  Based on that experience these are well worth sharing with family members seeking to reconnect communication between multiple generations not only during the entire holiday season but also year round.

Both of these family-centric games
  • Incorporate colorful playing pieces and simple instructions
  • Provide fun and entertainment without the use of technology
  • Encourage conversation between family members, especially parents and kids
  • Stimulate social, emotional, and intellectual faculties of young and old
  • Create an opportunity to learn about others, including your own family
  • Engage minds with activities that will bridge multiple generations
  • Produce quality time together that evolves into memories to last a life time 
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Photo from DoTellTheGame.com

Do Tell for Families, www.DoTellTheGame.com - Ages 8+, 2-8 Players, $29.95
From DoTell Enterprises, the game Do Tell family edition debuted in 2009 and is the brain child of relationship expert Kathy Jacobson.  The original Do Tell adult version, which was the basis for Do Tell for Families, was a team effort developed with major contributions from both personal and professional communities who participated in testing and playing over a period of 5 years.  

It has a simple premise for which this game was designed: to enhance family communication and understanding.  The board and playing pieces are beautifully designed with every color of the rainbow which gets everyone off to a cheery start from the moment the box is opened.   To play this children and their relatives each choose from four equally vibrant types of cards:  Do Cards, Tell Cards, Risk Cards, and Wild Cards.  

The barrel of fun really begins rolling when each player does or tells things about themselves prompted by thoughtful, sometimes very deep questions on the cards.
  • Sample Do Card:  "Be your mother (or father) first thing in the morning."
  • Sample Tell Card:  "What would you change about yourself if you could?  How and why would you change it?" or "If you had more time in a day, what would you do with it?  Why?
With questions like these to draw from and the amazing answers you get, it's no wonder that our 13 year-old son enjoyed this beyond measure.   He said, "I loved Do Tell because you really get to know your own family and find out stuff about them that you never knew before."  With comments like that about this product, it is very clear to why this game recently snared the Kidlutions Preferred Product Award.   Do Tell is available for purchase from Amazon or by calling the manufacturer direct at 888-424-4430.

Chicken Soup for the Soul ™ - Count Your Blessings ™, www.FamilyGamesAmerica.com - Ages 11+, 2 or more Players, $24.98
It's a widely accepted belief among experts that the #1 way to happiness is to count your blessings -- which this game will likely teach you to do.  As it says on the manufacturer's website, "This is the game with an attitude for gratitude."

No, it's not the Lone Ranger - It's my son grinning ear to ear wearing Count Your Blessings' Bright Side Glasses
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Perfect for families, especially with tweens and teens and their infamous 'tudes,  the object of Count Your Blessings is to be the first player to flip all 4 tokens from "Stressed to Blessed," "Tired to Inspired," "Frazzled to Dazzled," and "Mad to Glad" just by looking on the positive side of things.

What's different about this game is that there is no playing board.  Instead, players take turns with the sun spinner to determine which of the five card stacks they pick from in each round.  The card titles include "Attitude for Gratitude," "Count Your Blessings," "Thank Tank," "Soul Food," and my 13 year-old son's favorite, "Look on the Bright Side."  The later card, BTW, involves answering a question AND getting to put on the double sunburst cardboard sunglasses which is a real conversation starter with the sullen set between the ages of 11 and 17.

Sample Questions on Cards, Sometimes With Different Options for Kids and Parents
  • Attitude of Gratitude - "You've got a terrible cold but it's exam time and school and you still have to be there.  Name a silver lining that's nothing to sneeze at."
  • Thank Tank - "You'd really like your kids to learn responsibility about money but you're not in the greatest financial position either.  Let the other players suggest ways that 'earning can be learning' for everybody."
  • Soul Food - "Opportunity of Hard Knocks.   Which all-time famous band was told by their record company, We don't like your sound and guitar music is on the way out?" The answer: The Beatles
  • Count Your Blessings - "Name 3 things you are grateful for about the country or city you live in."
  • Look on the Bright Side - "OMG, your job/school just announced that they are going from free dress to uniforms.  Name 3 reasons that 'ad-dress' why this could be a good thing."
As I said above, you also get to put on the bright side glasses whenever you pick the "Look on the Bright Side" card.  If that doesn't get your grouchy, grumbling teen smiling and getting him off his iPod or cell phone for some family fun, I doubt anything will.

Chicken Soup for the Soul - Count Your Blessings is available from www.ToysGamesPuzzles.com and select retailers.

With choices like these two games, why not give them both a try?


Does your family do any games together that aren't high tech? If so, please share your bonding experiences by leaving a comment below.

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My Best Experience of Giving a Holiday Gift

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Learning from A Bad Teen Shopping Experience

Giving holiday gifts can be dicey if you don't know your audience. This is true, for sure, especially if you are buying gifts for teenagers during the holiday season or other special occasions throughout the year.



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I found that out myself at Hanukkah this year when I bought my girls(triplets, age 13) several outfits online that were non-returnable. Long story short is that these rather discriminating teenagers HATED what I chose for them even though I was sure they were going to be thrilled.
Now they're refusing to wearanythingI bought them without their pre-approval. So I've decided to lighten up and give these unworn clothing items away. I'm also going to be giving all four of our kids (all teens) gift cards from now on instead.

Now let me tell you about my best gift giving experience: it's what I've learned from this fiasco I've just told you about.  The take away is that when you want to give a gift that they'll love, you probably shouldn't guess what your teenagers will like.

As anyone with teens knows, this fickle bunch of adolescents likes and dislikes vary hour to hour. I have already bought my girls each gift cards to Coffee Bean & Tea Leaf and they are thrilled -- so this later experience has turned out to be the BEST shopping tactic I've ever tried.  But to even the score, I still need to get gift cards for both my boys too.

With all the gift cards I'll now be buying as gifts and well as all the ones I have laying around, it's lucky there's a new app called SWAGG.This just launched app lets you shop smarter and in my case (saner and happier too) using your mobile phone. With this you can easily buy, send or swap gifts and organize all those so-yesterday plastic gift cards you might have in your purse, junk drawer, dresser, and who knows where else.

To use this new little wonder of a shopping tool all you do is bring your mobile hand-held with you to the store and show the Swagg info on your phone to the sales clerk at checkout. You can use this online, too. Without a question this is a great way to get all those bulky cards into a neat digital file that goes everywhere with you.

I know I have a horde of plastic gift credits myself -- here, there, and every where -- that I'm going to upload to my iPhone as soon as I can find them.  And, since I still have a lot of shopping to do between now and January I'd better find them quick and enter them all into SWAGG so I can finishing making all my planned purchases.

This app is a breeze to learn even for tech-challenged moms like me if you watch their Demo Video before you dive into the handy life saver of an application which really helped me get up and running in a few minutes. If you are a tech genius (most kids under 40 these days are) you can just start using this without any ramp up time at all.

I know I'm going to be in gift card heaven with SWAGG always standing by like a good friend to get me through the holiday buying season. If you'd like to streamline your life and make it less stressful, you might want to give this a try too.

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